Life is tough. I think everyone can agree on that. But sometimes having a ‘right person’ can remind you that you can gut it out through the tough times … and that maybe there is something more than the ‘gutting out.’ Maybe that’s the hope part. And you know what? I’m not really focused on tough times. Special people in your lives don’t get you through tough times … a lot of people can do that <more than you probably think> … I imagine I am more focused on ‘better than today.’ Or maybe even ‘better than I am today.’ Somehow this person shows you a different version of maybe what you perceive as the broken pieces of life. They seem to give you a slightly different perspective on Life … shit … maybe they give a hugely different perspective on Life. The size of the perspective is irrelevant. They simply show you a different one. Somehow his new perspective you may glimpse seems a little lighter … brighter … better. The weight of the world … and the weight of yourself <thoughts, doubts, etc.> seem a little less in this place you see. This person sees what others don’t … and has the ability … sometimes even by doing nothing but being themselves … to understand what you are going through. And by ‘going through’ this isn’t about sadness or depression <although it could be> … it is more just about wherever you are in Life. That time. That space. That moment. You get a glimpse of another time, space and moment. Somehow. In an instant … yeah … sometimes just an instant … without obviously doing so … they accept responsibility over you. In my mind … they permit you to have the conversations you never have. “Somewhere in the conversation we never have, lies an issue we never resolve.” —William Chapman Oftentimes these are the conversations we simply forget to have with ourselves. We may avoid them … but I honestly don’t believe most of us do. We simply forget to have them. These special people remind us of the conversation … and they begin it. And once again … sometimes they begin it in a real conversation … and sometimes as they glance off of you and your Life … they simply spark the conversation in your head. The conversation? Better. Better stuff. Better life, doing better … being a better person. <note: this is ‘Hope’> Now. What makes the special person obvious to us? <because I assume someone is going to send me some note about ‘thanks … you are right … how do we recognize them?> We make space for them. I cannot tell you how many times I have heard someone say … ‘I don’t have enough time’ … or ‘I miss so-and-so so much and should ……..’ But you know what? We always … ALWAYS … make space for those special people who make us think about being better. “We have plenty of room for people … in our lives, I mean. Especially the ones who make us be the people we want to be.” – Suzanne LaFleur Oh. I forgot. There is another way to recognize the special people. ‘…. someone who’s iridescent, and when you do, nothing will ever compare.’ No reason for this post other than the fact I saw the quote I opened with and sat back and started thinking. Some of us get dipped in flat paint. Some of us get dipped in satin. And some of us get dipped in gloss. But the ones who are iridescent? I have met a few. Nothing compares.